Free practical-support tool

Practical Support Planner After a Loss

“Let me know if you need anything” is kind, but it asks a grieving person to invent and organize the help. Build a concrete offer you can genuinely carry out instead.

Build one useful offer

Choose only something you can really do. The best offer is specific, bounded, easy to decline, and does not create another obligation.

Private by design: the planner runs in your browser and does not send these details to the site.

Specific, low-pressure wording

Your offers

Choose a task and timing, then generate three versions you can copy and edit.

Why specificity matters

Help should reduce decisions, not add another one

Bereavement organizations such as Cruse recommend making offers of practical help specific. A bounded offer—what you can do, roughly when, and permission to say no—requires less planning from the grieving person than a broad promise.

A useful pattern

I can [specific task] [specific time]. If that would help, I’ll arrange the details; if not, no pressure at all.

See the bereavement-support sources behind this principle →